* I am using xenophobia in an abstract sense that includes things like homophobia, and ignores the "phobia = fear" misnomer issue.
Isn't it weird when you have a resentment for the existence of another person? Not their presence, but that they have an experience that is not yours in a way that you fixate on. For instance, have you ever heard the "guns, beer and titties" type boomer hate on muslims- not for coming to white countries, but for not letting their women wear microbikinis? To be clear, I kikeheart microbikinis and muslimhate boomers and MENA baddies aren't that cute but that is not the point. The point is, dude, they are all the way over there- in africa or the desert or whatever.
Why does it get to you? Why does your empathy for a strange life take a resentful form?
Here are some times that "it" has gotten to me, and observations about the experience and context.
I experienced this as a libtarded child when exposed to old timey insular christianity, a la the Amish. I didn't say anything, but I felt revolted at how constrained their lives were- not the technological part especially, but the sexual part. I think I was disgusted at the idea of separating male and female kids in school. I wanted to interact with girls, and I guess I felt empathy for the kids who didn't get to at some ages. I was an incel baby myself, I did not get to kiss girls or hold their hands or sneak away into bushes so we could share secrets. This raises the question of a sort of Freudian "projection" or something something Girardian mimesis. Basically, was my resentful empathy somehow stronger in this instance because of my own intimate/sexual/emotional retardation by circumstance? "Oh surely these people must have lives worse than mine, because I can't be more stunted than someone else is..." This doesn't strike me as the whole story, but I know people will raise it as a possibility.
The whole Islamophobic impulse is pretty much the same thing. I do not have a shortage of women in the USA, and if I did the solution would not involve making women in other countries more sexually loose, it would be gender-based immigration quotas so white boys can get laid easy. Why should my empathy extend especially to some dude in Cairo who has never seen a woman "buss down"? I'm kind of joking but these things always sound strange when you say them out loud.
Old people living alone and there not being any kids my age that I could talk to growing up. Imagining how pointless it must be that they grow old and do nothing. What is the point in drifting along for decades- no love, you're stuck in a marriage. Nothing fun, what would the point of them having fun even be if they were stuck in a marriage. Not like having these thoughts meant I endorsed a swinger lifestyle or something, just that marriage seemed like a lifeless constraint. The game is over, you already loved and now you just need to wait for the grave. But surely people must love each other after they get married? What about coziness? People say "grow old together" in a romantic way or "die with my family around my bedside" in a wholesome way, why didn't this click for me when I felt this way? Would this have clicked if I had a real reciprocated crush at the time?
What about homosexuals and trannies? The libtards have a pretty good argument on the purely logical basis when they ask "Why do you care about gay guys being gay, that's less competition for you!" This argument doesn't touch on lesbians for obvious reasons, but we can consider the argument restricted to Sodomy for now. (I have never really felt xenophobic resentment for lesbians, but I've heard of other people feeling it for them and pooners. Please discuss your experience as applicable.) There is the argument that straight homophobic guys are secretly gay guys who just never come out of the closet. (Where does homophobia come from then? Society has to get it from somewhere. Is the closet thing a gay fetish?) Also it is clearly the same experience as the other one's here, but I don't secretly want to become an amish muslim or some unique cultural equivalent.
In these other xenophobia cases the logical implication of the xenophobia isn't something I endorse just by having the xenophobia. Homophobia would seem to imply "Wanting to get pussy is good, I want to get pussy, I can get more pussy if everyone else is a faggot!" Amishmuslimphobia -> I want more women to wear bikinis! Boomer/marriage-phobia -> I want to switch wives with my pals all the heckin' time! But again, none of this is the authentic feeling you get during the xenophobic experience. It isn't even hard to feel xenophobic the other way, hating the pointlessness of the type of guy who wants to flaunt his girlfriend's asscheeks in front of the whole gas station. Why does he need to bring other people into his sex life? He needs my conscious experience as a sex toy? The idea of wifeswapping doesn't feel alive, doesn't fill me with romantic lust.
I will add that I think a lot of faggot posers do get more pussy than I do and I am resentful of them for that, but I think this is unrelated because they aren't really gay. (mostly a joke)
I guess another thing is how silly xenophobic instances sound when you discuss them logically. But I'm not even critiquing xenophobia, I don't see anything wrong with the feeling itself and it is interesting how there is an aspect of close-minded empathy built in to it. Maybe part of xenophobia is that you need to have it activated in some way that forces you to think about another person and how they feel. Like, I didn't think about trannies that much. The only real issue a tranny can cause you that a gay guy can't is they can pretend to be a woman in idk say 5% of cases. I imagine that this makes transphobia more common than homophobia.
Is there a desire to make other people like you? Like you have an ego that isn't body-bound and just floats around saying "oops, wrong way to think and act, change now!" I think I am more easily disgusted at tiny frail "femme" faggots than big strong chad faggots, and the reverse with trannies. This doesn't make a lot of sense. Should I be less disgusted with trannies/fags who only fuck and don't get fucked? This seems like it probably has some interface with Girardian mimesis, the logic outlining how you desire to make people like you, but then once they are like you they become your rival and so you have to fight them. Like a story about a soldier showing off a picture of his wife, and then he gets killed by a guy who wants his wife. Why did you post a picture of "your waifu" on the internet? Where is the Gawr gura deathpit brawl and pub?
Maybe there is some origin in tribal logic. Like, if a tribe gets too big and has to split and then they have to sort into two different camps and start acting like different populations, you might have to move from empathy to enmity very quickly. There are all kinds of ways that doesn't make any sense and a few ways you could try to make it make sense, but I won't try to unless people are interested.
I was going to post this as a thread